It’s the happiest day of your best friend’s life and you, as the Maid of Honor, have to give a toast worthy of this special occasion. You have so much to say but have no idea where to start?…well ladies, START HERE.
1. Traditionally, the Maid of Honor or one of the bridesmaids gives her toast after the Best Man. Sometimes these are the only two toasts but it’s possible that there will be a lot of wedding speeches to get through. Either way, the reception will be full of memory-making experiences for the Bride and Groom, so don’t hog the spot light and keep your toast relatively brief.
2. Whenever and wherever the bridesmaid speaks the speech should be heartfelt and natural. Not the “ham it up”, class clown type? Then don’t write a stand-up routine. Just be yourself and write in your own voice.
3. The speech should be personal but not SO personal that it will upset anyone. If you’re planning on telling personal stories run them by some other friends of the couple. Make sure they aren’t going to embarrass the bride and groom in front of all their guests.
4. Talk about the bride and groom in an excited and sincere manner but don’t go overboard into sickeningly sweet territory. Approach statements from the bridal side of things. Point out the positive aspects of the bride, flatter her and congratulate the Groom on landing such a wonderful woman. This will warm things up for a little bit of roasting and teasing. All in good fun, of course!
5. Remember, this is a happy and blessed occasion so avoid stories or topics that will bring the mood of the day down. There will also be a wide range of individuals in the audience so avoid discussing sex, religion or politics. No need to upset the Groom’s grandma or the flower girl.
6. When you’ve typed up a first draft use Grammarly grammar checker to correct any embarrassing mistakes. Once you know your work is grammatically correct, read the speech aloud to a couple friends and see what they think. While you are at it you may want to print a copy in elegant paper to enhance the couple’s bridal scrapbook.
7. On the day of the big event pack along a note card with key words to trigger your memory as to what comes next. This security measure will help you overcome any fears about speaking in front of an audience as well as deter babbling or stumbling.
8. Watch the happy couples’ faces as you sing their praises and pat yourself on the back for contributing to making this day one they will remember for the rest of their lives.